Affirmations never worked for me. I agree with them in theory: think positively, live a positive life, and your dreams will come true. I firmly believe that our thoughts create our reality. Thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to behaviour, and behaviour lead to actions that drive our reality. The purpose of affirmations is to state your wish as if it’s true and repeat it to yourself until you believe it. Some advocate repeating statements like, “I’m healthy and abundant”, over and over; sometimes hundreds of times a day. Repeating a statement over and over never felt right to me. There was always a wiggling voice inside me that said, “That’s not true”.
Then, I came across an intriguing alternative to affirmations, called afformations. Instead of making a statement as if what you want is already true, you ask yourself why it’s already true. For example, “Why am I healthy and abundant?” Making the statement into a question is less threatening. It entices your unconscious and conscious mind to find supporting evidence. Also, it engages the mind to start looking for ways to make it true.
Try it. Think of something you desire, then ask yourself why you have it. Why am I happy? Why am I surrounded by loving friends? If a wiggling voice starts to raise doubts, then phrase it as if it’s about to happen, like “Why am I getting healthier and more abundant?” See what answers you come up with.
When I pose these questions to myself, positive areas of my life pop to the forefront in support. “Why am I successful?” Because I’m constantly improving myself. I’m persistent and determined. And my creativity helps come up with novel solutions.
We rarely give ourselves credit for the successes in our lives. This is a good way to highlight them and to build on future successes. After asking myself these questions, I realized that I’m standing right next to my ideal self.